Speaking of relationships with other women, that is exactly what we’ll be focusing on this coming Sisterhood! Andi & Rhema will be sharing wisdom they’ve learned throughout the years about building meaningful, lasting & healthy friendships with the women in their lives. No matter how many friends we may have had in our lives, I believe there are always areas in which we can grow and learn about being an even better friend to those in our world, so I’m definitely planning on taking some notes this Sisterhood!
In preparation for this evening, I reached out to a few girls in our church whose friendships with each other define true sisterhood, and asked about some characteristics that they see demonstrated in their relationships with each other. Here are a few of their insights:
Jessi Marquez (soon to be Green!) & Gracie Gordon
Jessi: “Gracie and I met at the first Sisterhood Girls Night in – after that we were inseparable. I think what makes our friendship unique is that we have managed to be best friends, business partners, roomies and do ministry together. Gracie has been there for me through the highest and lowest moments and always believes the best in me. We can laugh and joke about ridiculous things and also have conversations that are life changing.
I love that God is in our friendship. When we give advice, we invite God into our conversations. We hold each other accountable and draw out the calling in each other’s lives.
I’ve learned through our friendship how to listen, the importance of being on time, understanding that people think differently than you and most importantly that you can give advice but it doesn’t mean you control their lives – that even if they don’t take your advice, you are still there for them and show grace. You never ever without friendship and open communication is key. If I ever do anything to offend Gracie – we talk about it freely and make up. We don’t hold grudges and we remember how much we care about each other! Lastly – we never slander or share the secrets we tell each other!”
Gracie: “I agree with everything Jessi said!! To add…
Our friendship redefined what I thought girl friends were. I always thought it was impossible to have girl friends that weren’t at least sort of competitive. Jessi and I truly put each other before ourselves. We put it as “always being on each other’s team.
Our friendship also showed me that it’s possible to fully trust people – Jessi is the first person I truly trusted outside of family members
Our friendship has now grown to being not just about us, but using our friendship as a ministry in itself. We want to show other girls what it looks like to truly be a good friend… we want to share the things we’ve learned together.”
Sunni Spencer & Kristine Banasik
Sunni: “I met Kristine and our friendship was organic and instantaneous. Kristine and I share core values, and in any type of relationship, that is key. There is a level of trust and truth in our friendship that is truly unique. I know God blessed us with this quality of friendship because we share those same values in our faith. Talking about our beliefs and experiences after being saved is like friendship on steroids… a natural high! Kristine and I have both been through good times and bad since becoming friends. Despite the circumstance, we have either celebrated together or have been there to lift one another up.”
Jenn Nelson & Trish Archuleta
Jenn: “Mine and Trish’s friendship truly started one night at a dingy diner, where she actually asked me to be her best friend. I said yes, and the rest is history.
Trish and I had a conversation with a mutual friend recently, giving some advice on one of their friendships. It made me realize how, in a way, it needs to be treated like a guy/girl relationship. We need to make time for each other, be there for each other, but at the same time, out of love (always coming from love) we need to challenge each other. My friendship with Trish is the most real friendship I’ve ever had. It can get messy and uncomfortable, but we are both centered in our relationships with God. So from that place, we teach, learn, grow and encourage one another to continue to dive into the things God has for us, and to not give up. We refuse to let the other settle for less than what God created us for.
She likes emotions, and I hate them, so she makes me feel the things I’m feeling. In my life, I usually would tuck these things away, which is comfortable, yet so unhealthy. Although in these moments I’m not thrilled with her, she’s taught me so much about relationships, myself, and God’s grace. She also has fantastic taste, and we both love tacos.”
Trish: “Jenn and I have been friends for 1 year this month. I think we have spent 364 of those 365 days hysterically laughing together, and the one day missed was because Jenn was out of town. I love my friendship with Jenn because we are as opposite as they come. We think and we see things differently, but in that, we can challenge on another to move forward, see things in a new way, or just get over ourselves ( when needed).”
I hope you enjoyed catching a glimpse into the real-life friendships of girls in our church, and I can’t wait to see YOU at Sisterhood next week!
By: Emily Rodriguez